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Marriage is the best, hardest, most rewarding, most humbling part of my life. I love my husband and am so blessed to have a partner in this life who loves me well. We have been married for five and half years and I’m praying for 60 more great years with my man. I still have so much to learn and one place I go for encouragement is the Happy Wives Club. Started by the lovely Fawn Weaver as a response to the negativity about marriage in the world, it is a haven of encouragement. It doesn’t take five minutes on Facebook to find someone bashing their spouse or complaining about their life in their status update. I believe marriage is a gift and it is hard work daily. To make it work you have to choose to believe in the value of your marriage and your partnership with your spouse. It is worth it. We are only five years in and still learning every day, but so far I can share with you the three best things we’ve done for our marriage.
The Three Best Things We’ve Done for Our Marriage (So Far)
1) Get on the same page financially.
Four years ago we started the Dave Ramsey plan together, got out of debt, and started creating a monthly budget together. This has been huge. We know we are on the same page about money and we are working together for our family. This decision has helped us to become debt free, set up an emergency fund, give generously, and have me stay home with our kids. Money problems are the number one cause of divorce in our country, so getting on the same page about money can be a game changer.
Don’t get me wrong, we love our children and would die for them. However, we do not put them before our marriage. We want to create a happy, healthy, stable home for our sweet babies, and in order to do that we have to create a happy, healthy, stable marriage. We try to have date night once a week, even if it is at home. We make, ahem, married times a priority. We pay attention to each other’s love languages and try to make sure the other is feeling well loved. We keep an early bed time for our kids because they need the sleep and we need the together time.
We are Christians, so praying together daily is essential. If you are a believing couple, I cannot urge you enough to make this a part of your routine. If you are not of our same faith, you can seek spiritual time together in whatever practice you choose. Meditating together can be a powerful way to get on the same page. For us, we pray together at every meal we eat together, which is most dinners and other meals on the weekend. We pray throughout the day when making decisions or facing difficulty. My favorite time to pray together is at night before bed. Even if I’m staying up later (I’m a night owl), I lay down with Jed and pray with him before he goes to sleep. This keeps our faith at the center of our relationship and helps remind us we are on the same team.
I think that’s really what all three on my list come down to, being on the same team with your spouse. We are Team Eby, a united front, a team together creating a beautiful happy marriage and home.
Fawn Weaver, the founder of the Happy Wives Club wrote a book about the best marriage secrets the world has to offer. They say the book is like “Eat, Pray, Love meets The 5 Love Languages.” I say the book is inspiring. You can grab a copy of the book here: Happy Wives Club: One Woman’s Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage.
What is your secret to a happy marriage? Share it with me in the comments and join the conversation on Twitter using the hash tag #HappyWivesClub. Fawn is hosting a Twitter party Monday, Jan. 6th at 1 pm EST.