Month: January 2012

Love is…

Do you read Ann Voskamp?
You should.  
She has a totally unique voice and daily challenges me to bust out of my normal and be revolutionarily thankful.  Her book, “One Thousand Gifts” is phenomenal and her blog is a great read.  I read it from my inbox, but sometimes skim and miss the point.  A friend sent me today’s entry and I took the time to really read it.  The quote above stuck out to me so much that I made a little printable of it.  I think it will go on my mantle.  Feel free to print it, too.  You can copy it from above or click on the free printables link at the top of the page.    

Discovery

We have been outside as much as possible because the temps have been in the 60-75 range. I am happiest when outside, and my son is the same. He recently discovered the wonders of grass. Touching it, ripping it out, trying to eat it, a world of possibilities.

Babywise Works for Us.

Some parents love it, some hate it, but almost everyone who has heard of Babywise has an opinion.  I’ve had a lot of people throw judgemental negativity at me when I say that I’m a fan.  I think most of them probably haven’t actually read the book.  After a Twitter exchange that left me feeling judged I decided to take to the blog to defend our parenting choices, not that I have to.    
I read about 18 parenting books before Fisher was born, among them “On Becoming Babywise”, “Secrets of the Babywhisperer”, and “The Baby Whisperer Solves all Your Problems.”  All three recommend parent led routines for babies.  Babywise in particular is a little controversial, but I think a lot of folks judge the book by the misinformation that is out there.  I was wary of it going in, but had noticed that many of my friends whose children seemed particularly content and well rested used the methods.  I don’t agree with 100% of any of the parenting books I read, Babywise included.  We did not use the methods at first, but were pulling our hair out after 3 weeks of winging it with a baby who was having serious nursing issues and had his days and nights reversed.  We decided it couldn’t hurt to try, and it was like a miracle.
The nursing issues were resolved after his tongue tie was fixed, which you can read all about here.  We used Babywise and The Baby Whisperer’s advice to get Fisher’s days and nights straightened out, and he almost immediately started doing a 5-6 hour stretch of sleep at night.  We never forced anything, but guided him into a routine.  He occasionally fusses as he winds down to sleep, but we don’t let him “cry it out”.  As he grew he eventually dropped night feedings completely on his own.  At about 7 weeks he stopped waking up for the 1 am feeding, then dropped the 4 am around 12 weeks.  The first night he dropped each feeding I woke up freaking out that he hadn’t woken up, but he slept right on through.  Since then he has been sleeping from about 7 pm to 7 am with one feeding between 9-10 pm.  
He is exclusively breastfed and has been since our nursing issues resolved.  He is in the 95 percentile for weight and head size, and 75 for height.  People often comment on how happy and content he seems.  Are we really blessed with a sweet, easy baby? Yes, and we fully realize that.  However, did we make choices that helped him become the sweet, growing boy that he is? Yes.  We do not let him cry it out, but instead listen when he cries and try to meet whatever he needs.  We do not keep him on a rigid schedule, but do use a flexible routine.  It works for us, and for our child.  We also babywear and cloth diaper and make our own baby food, but I’ll talk more about those parenting choices at another time.           
What people think Babywise is about:
rigidity
strict schedules
crying it out
not listening to your baby’s needs
What Babywise is ACTUALLY about:
flexibility
routines – eat, play, sleep
interpreting your baby’s cries
listening to your baby’s needs and fulfilling them
If a particular parenting choice doesn’t appeal to you, it is easy to judge that parent and think that they are wrong and you are right.  I do it, you do it, and I did it a heck of a lot more before I had a baby.  I think the key to getting rid of the judgement is realizing that there is no one right way.  There are parenting choices that most can agree are universally bad, but after that we all have the freedom to choose to parent our children the way we see fit.  I hope that your choices are working for you and I respect them, and hope that you can respect mine.  If you want to learn more about Babywise and the Baby Whisperer, definitely read the books.  You can also learn more at Babywise Mom and the Baby Whisperer Forums.    
Have you read Babywise?
Do you love it/hate it?
Do you use it?
If not, what parenting books/methods do you prefer?   

A Vintage Highchair Makeover with Tutorial

Fisher is now 7 months old, and was in desperate need of a high chair.  We looked all over to find one that we liked, but had no luck.  We wanted a vintage wooden one, but all that we found were ridiculously expensive.  Big plastic models were looming in our future when our friend Betsy spotted this metal gem at a vintage store for $20.  She grabbed it for us.  Jed was horrified.     

 The poor chair was all kinds of ugly, and Jed though there was no hope.  As eternal optimists, Betsy and I saw lots of potential.  I took the ugly duckling home and it sat in the garage for a while until we had time to get the project completed.

 The tray has already been sanded in the above pic.  It was originally the same color as the back below.  Ick.

 Ugly, oh yes she’s ugly.  On the other hand, she is very well made and easily folds to store flat against the wall.  The tray also removes completely so that it can be easily cleaned.  Awesome.  

 The tan seat and seat back had to go, immediately.  My mama and I went to visit City Craft, a great Dallas fabric store.  I wanted to find some oil cloth to recover the chair so that it would be durable and easily cleaned.  City Craft has a great selection, and had a sale going on.  I choose an oil cloth design in black and white that looks like Mexican papel picado decorated with birds, flowers, and calaveras (happy dancing skulls a la El Dia de Los Muertos).

 We removed the cushions and Jed sanded the ugly bronze paint off of the seat, tray, and back.  The legs and arms were already in pretty good shape.

 I removed the vinyl covers off of the seat and back, and then laid them out on my oil cloth.

 I cut a big square for each one.  
 Then I trimmed it down to size.  I had to trim it even more so that it would fit well.  

 Meanwhile, Jed painted the tray, seat, and back with a lovely light turquoise.  He had to do 3 coats to get it to look right.

 To recover the seats, I had to carefully stuff the oil cloth behind and under the seat and the back.  Then we hammered the seat and back in.  This was the trickiest part of the whole project.  I got a little frustrated, but persevered so that we could have this lovely creation.  

 What do you think?
 I love it.  

 I love the black and white, the papel picado design, the paint color, everything.  I’m a little obsessed with it, quite frankly.

Fisher loves it too.  
The metal makes a great sound when he bangs his little hands on it, and an even better noise when he bangs his sippie cup.  

 I love using vintage pieces because they are often so much higher quality than plastic crap from Target.  We love Target and have our share of plastic baby stuff, but are happy when we can have something a little more stylish and sturdy to go with the rest of our house.

 If you’ve made it this far, thanks for putting up with the insane amount of pictures in this post.  Like I said, I’m obsessed.

How have you used or repurposed vintage furniture or baby gear?
I’m sharing this project at some great blog parties.  They are listed on my right sidebar.  Be sure to check them out to see tons of awesome crafty ideas.  Thanks for reading.  
I also linked up at the PAINT IT Party at Design, Dining, & Diapers.

Baby Laughter is Magical

If you need a laugh today, enjoy this video of Fisher laughing like crazy at our dog Jackson. He did this for about ten minutes before I started filming. What was Jackson doing that was so funny? Most of the time he was just laying in his bed. I wish I could be so easily entertained.