No one gets married thinking about divorce, but we know it happens to so many couples. If we could figure out what causes it, would we try to avoid it? OF COURSE WE WOULD. We’re not dumb. There it is in black and white, on every list of the most common causes of divorce: money and financial issues. Here’s the thing – it isn’t a lack of money that makes the list. It’s the issues that come from not being on the same page financially with your spouse – not seeing eye to eye about money. Maybe one spouse is a spender while the other is a saver, or one insists on controlling every aspect of the finances without letting the other have a say. What is comes down to is that if you aren’t on the same page, with the same vision of your financial future as your spouse, there will be issues. So, how do you get on the same page?
Category: our financial story
Getting Rid of Cable without Losing TV Entertainment ~ Fabulously Frugal
We got rid of cable television over two years, and quite honestly we don’t miss it. We were paying over $100 a month for so many channels we could never watch. When we sat down and looked at our budget we knew something had to give so that I could quit my job and stay home with the kids. Cable was first on the chopping block. We found three easy ways to keep our tv entertainment while cutting cable, and I’m sharing them with you today as part of the Fabulously Frugal Link Party. Link up your latest frugal post below and hop around to visit the others to find so many great ideas.
Frugal Friday: Four Ways to Stick to Your Dining Out Budget
I get questions all the time about the specifics of our budget. “How much do we spend on groceries?” “How much do we set aside for clothes?” By far the most common question is, “How much do you spend on restaurants?” The answer is, “Not much.” Our monthly dining out budget on one income is $70. That’s it. Would we love for it to be more? Of course. Click on some of my ads and affiliate links and maybe we’ll get to increase it. Just kidding (but seriously…). How do we stick to spending only $70 per month on dining out?
1) We don’t go to fancy restaurants. I have a growing list of great local places and a few chains where we can get a great meal for under $20. It is possible and a lot easier than you might think. We would rather have 3-4 meals out a month than one expensive one.
2) We don’t buy kids’ meals. The Bear is still a toddler with a varying appetite, and every time we’ve ever bought him a restaurant meal we regret it because he leaves most of it on the plate. Instead we bring in a sandwich, veggies, fruit, and a sippie cup every time we go out to eat, and offer him some of our meals. Yes, this takes a little planning on our part. No, we won’t be able to get away with it forever. We’ve never had a waiter even ask a question about it, and several have even commented on what a great idea it is.
3) We don’t buy drinks. Soft drinks and alcohol in restaurants are a total rip off, in my opinion. Why would we pay $2.99 each for a diet coke? Crazy town. Sometimes we break this rule, and when we do Jed and I split a soft drink rather than both getting one. We get free refills and french kiss each other on the regular, so what’s the big deal?
4) We meal plan. Before we started budgeting, we spent an outrageous amount of money on restaurants because we were both busy and dinner time would roll around without us having a plan. We’ve learned that dinner is not an emergency, it comes at about the same time every day. If we plan out our meals one week in advance we end up spending far less on groceries, making fewer grocery store trips, and eat out far less. This way we can plan our meals out and make them count rather than have them be a last minute rush decision.
Do you have a budget for dining out each month? How do you stick to it?
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Frugal Friday: Mad Money $$
When folks find out that we are on a strict budget, they often ask questions like, “How do you buy things that just YOU want?” or “Do y’all get frustrated with each other if the other spends too much money?” Before we went on the budget I had so many questions like those. We would try to be frugal and something would come along we just had to have, we’d buy it, and then feel guilty. One of my favorite things about the budget we have now is the concept of mad money. Every month we budget in a certain amount for both Jed and I to get mad money. This money is ours individually and we can do with it whatever we want. WHATEVER WE WANT. If I want to buy a ridiculous pair of shoes, I can do it. If Jed wants to buy an expensive flashlight (happens often), he can do it. We are not allowed to get upset about the other one’s mad money purchases. Our current mad money amount is not that much ($50 each), but it is plenty to get something we want or save up. We also get $25 each per month for clothing, that we save up.
One difficult thing about mad money is that we are always trying to convince the other that our intended mad money purchase should really come out of the house fund or the car fund or some other fund. Sometimes this is true, and we work that out. Sometimes it isn’t. Our house does not need yet another flashlight. Sorry darlin’. The other downside of mad money is that if you make a mistake, your mad money has to pay for it. For instance, Jed got a speeding ticket the other day, and his mad money fund took a big hit. Bummer.
Mad money is one of the main reasons we are able to stick to our budget. I love that I have the freedom to buy whatever I want as long as I have enough mad money. For a born shopper like me, this is HUGE. I’ve told y’all before that doing Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover and sticking to a budget has been the best thing ever for our marriage. With the budget and our mad money funds, we never fight over money. Ever. You can read more about our financial story here.
Do you have a mad money fund or something similar in your house?
Frugal Friday – Buying a Used Car with CASH
Frugal Friday – A Little Fall Color
I like to decorate with natural elements whenever possibly, and I love a fall display. One of the components of our first date was a pumpkin patch, so Jed knows pretty gourds are the way to my heart. He brought home a whole bushel of various pumpkins and cute gourds from his trip to Lubbock last weekend. Thank you, sir. The best part was that he got them all for just $10. Woohoo! I’ve got gourds coming out my ears but our budget didn’t take hit. I’ve put them all over the house and still have a ton to give away.
How do you decorate on a budget?
Frugal Friday – My Favorite Frugal and Financial Posts of 2010
Last year was a landmark one for our family. We moved again, began the journey to parenthood, and accomplished a number of financial goals. I’ve compiled a list of my favorite frugal and financial posts from 2010. It was fun for me to look over the posts to see how we’ve grown. I hope you enjoy them. Click on a title to check it out.
Frugal Friday – Our 2nd Cash Only Christmas
There are many things that I love about the Christmas season. I love the meaning, traditions, decorations, time with family, time with Jesus, singing carols, the movies, and the giving and receiving of gifts. I do not love holiday stress, busyness, and money worries. Last year was our first year on the Dave Ramsey plan, and we were newly debt free. We budgeted for Christmas presents and used only cash and debit and it was so freeing. We loved it so much that we did it again this year.
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