Love Letter to Blog Readers Everywhere {Especially Mine}
Dear Blog Readers Around the World,
Thank you for taking time out of your busy life to read what we, the bloggers, write. I’m not sure if you know how important you are to people like me so I’m taking a minute to make sure you do. Without you, everything we write would fall in to empty space and never be heard. Every time you click on a blog post you are listening to someone’s voice. We appreciate it. Thank you.
Many bloggers write to tell a story, to share their lives, to help others, to reach out. I hope to do all of those things here in this space. Without you, it all falls flat. Thank you for reading my stories, and those of my fellow bloggers. Thank you for listening. Thank you for letting us share way too much about our lives because we need to vent, long to share, are desperate to open up. Thank you for responding, for leaving comments, for sending emails. I love hearing from each one of you, as do my fellow bloggers.
Like many others in this arena, I try to make a little extra money through this site to help support my family. Without you, that doesn’t happen. Every time you click on a blog post you give a page view, which helps that blogger widen their influence. As influence widens, opportunities to make money materialize. Thank you for making it possible for us to live on one traditional income (Jed’s job) by supplementing it with blog income. Every time you click on an ad, read a post, enter a giveaway, or leave a comment, you are helping a blogger provide for their family. When you take the time to share a post you love on Pinterest, Facebook, or Twitter, it helps that blogger tremendously. Did you know that? You being here, on my site, matters to my family. Thank you. Seriously, thank you.
I am forever grateful and humbled that someone would take the time to read what I write, much less that I would be able to supplement our income through this little space on the web. Thank you for making it possible.
With Love,
Becca
Family Travel: Enjoying the Road with a Baby and a Toddler
Isn’t this front porch the dreamiest? I could just live there.
How do you keep you sanity when traveling with kids? Tell me in the comments section.
Family Snacking at Home and on the Road + My Black Bean Hummus Recipe
I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls Collective and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.
Eleanor Pearl at Three Months
Our Pearl Girl is already 3 months old, and I’m in shock. The last three months have passed in the blink of an eye and our Ellie has transitioned from newborn to baby before I was ready for it. She is such a joy and I love every minute of being her mama.
We didn’t go to the doctor this month, so our best guess for weight is about 13.5 pounds. She has moved into 3-6 month clothes and wears size 2 diapers when we use disposables. We’ve gotten into a good routine with her cloth diapers. She is still exclusively breastfed and our one attempt at pumping and bottle feeding was a big fail. She typically goes 3-4 hours in between nursing sessions during the day and does a 9 hour stretch at night from 10 pm to 7 am. Mama feels like a new woman. She takes two long naps every day as well as one shorter cap nap. She prefers the swing for her cat nap, but also loves to sleep when being worn by Mama or Daddy.
Her hair is still an auburn shade, and her eyes are bright blue just like Daddy’s. Somehow her tresses fall naturally into a mohawk. Little punk rocker.
The biggest surprise this month came when our sweet girl started rolling over from front to back. The Bear didn’t do this until he was 7 months old so we were totally shocked. She is smiling at us and reacts when we talk to her. We LOVE it. Her big brother loves to hug and kiss her, and especially likes going in to get her from naps.
We can’t wait to see who our precious girl is as her personality develops more each day. She is a delight and we are so in love.
Family Fun in DFW: Rough Riders Baseball
The Bear loved his first game, though he didn’t make it all the way through. He has asked several times to watch baseball this past week. I grew up watching the Arkansas Travelers play with my parents and grandparents. My Grandmom and Grandad rarely missed a home game, and even had their picture featured in a Southern Living article on minor league parks. There is nothing like cheering on the home team with your family, and I hope this was the first of many games for us.
Dining Out on a Dime in DFW: Taco Joint
Our family loves delicious food, but we live on a tight budget. You can read about how we stick to our dining out budget here. As a result, we love to find fabulous restaurants where we can stretch out dining out dollars and have a fantastic meal at the same time. I’ll share my finds here on the blog so that you can “dine out on a dime” as well.
My husband, Jed, has often stated that he could eat Tex-Mex for breakfast lunch and dinner. At Taco Joint you can do just that and not spend a fortune. A family of 4 can eat at Taco Joint for under $20, which is awesome.
I highly recommend the brisket tacos for $1.99, and you can upgrade to a meal with beans and rice for $8.29. Friends of mine love the Lester (grilled sirloin) and the Evan (vegetarian). You can get the “Gaston Grab” for a crowd, 6 breakfast tacos for $11.79.
Taco Joint has 2 locations – 911 N. Peak St and 6434 E. Mockinbird Ln (Mock/Abrams). The Lakewood location has happy hour from 3-7 pm Monday – Friday and a fun patio.
What’s your go-to restaurant when you want a great meal without spending a ton?
This is not a sponsored post, and all opinions are my own.
Family Fun in DFW: Beat the Heat at the Children’s Aquarium at Fair Park
Spike wants to bite your toes. Thankfully thick glass protects you from this 190 pound 75 old year old titan snapping turtle.
The touch pool is surrounded by a step rock formation to make it the perfect height for every kid. The staff guide was so patient with Bear and showed him shells and sea urchins, helping him touch them gently.
In my opinion, the best thing about the Children’s Aquarium is the price. Admission is only $8 for adults, and $6 for kids 3-11 and seniors. If you have a membership to the Dallas Zoo you get $2 off admission. An even better deal is the annual membership. For $20 ($15 for zoo members) you can buy an annual membership and visit any time. If you’ve checked out the prices on any of the other aquariums in town you know that price is unbeatable.
**Holiday Gift Idea** A season pass would make a perfect gift for the fish loving child in your life. People (children included) remember experiences far more than material things. Do you remember what toy you got for Christmas at age 6? Probably not. But I bet you remember a favorite visit to the zoo, aquarium, or special museum.
Everything I’ve Learned About Breastfeeding {5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me} + Our Story
In honor of World Breastfeeding Week, I’m sharing my personal breastfeeding experiences here on the blog. I support all moms and their parenting choices, but this week is all about breastfeeding awareness. Please do not read judgement in to my words. It isn’t there. I am currently nursing my second child who is 3 months old and exclusively breastfed. I nursed my first child for 1 year, with some formula supplementation the first 2 months. You can read about my breastfeeding battle nursing my first child here. We had a hard time, and I learned a lot. Nursing is the best for your baby, and it may be a challenge for you. It is at times a truly beautiful, bonding, precious, and dare I say holy time. At other times it is uncomfortable, frustrating, and difficult. It is always worth it.
1) Breastfeeding is best for baby and natural, but not necessarily easy.
I took a class before Bear was born, but had never really seen anyone breastfeed. I had no clue what I was doing. Then I had a c-section, which makes nursing more difficult for most moms (and a big part of why I had a VBAC with my 2nd child). Formula was pushed on me by the hospital because Bear was loosing weight and wouldn’t latch correctly. Weeks later we found out it was because he had a tongue tie. Nurses, lactation consultants, and our former pediatrician all blamed me, saying I wasn’t producing enough milk and just wasn’t trying hard enough. NO one bothered to look in Bear’s mouth and see the real issue until we hired a private IBCLC to come to our house as a last ditch effort. She saw the problem immediately and explained that it wouldn’t get better until his tongue was fixed.
We saw a pediatric ENT doctor the next day and had his tongue clipped. He immediately latched on correctly and my breasts started producing more milk. Because he couldn’t latch he tore up my breasts, because he tore up my breasts I used nipple shields given by an LC, because I used nipple shields my milk production went down, because my milk production went down I was bullied into supplementing, because I supplemented I had to battle to get my production back up. It was an ordeal. But worth it. After we had his tongue fixed I worked hard to get my production back up and we were able to stop using formula at 5 weeks. He nursed exclusively til 6 months when we started solid food, and continued nursing til 12 months.
When the Pearl Girl was born three months ago, we immediately saw that she was also tongue tied. We had it fixed on the way home from the hospital by our pediatrician, but had to go back for one more clip by our pediatric ENT. In the 3 short days it took to get her tongue fixed, my breasts were already torn to shreds. If this happened to you, a tongue tie could be to blame. Since we had it fixed she has nursed well and my milk production is great.
2) If you can push through the first 8 weeks, it gets much easier and is completely worth all the hard work. It will make your life so much easier and hassle free.
You can read lots of great information about why breastfeeding is best for your baby here and here. It was also the best for me because I never have to heat anything up, mix anything, or tote any food with me. My milk is always available and always the perfect temp, and in the perfect container. I’m not able to store pumped milk because my milk contains extra lipase and goes bad when stored. This means I have to be available to feed my babe whenever she is hungry. This can be a challenge, but I make it my priority to be there for her. I did the same with Bear while working. It was a sacrifice, but totally worth it. I truly believe that breastfeeding is the reason Bear has only needed antibiotics once in his 2+ years.
3) Breastfeeding can be lonely, but you are not alone.
At the beginning, breastfeeding is a 40 hour + a week job, and it can be a bit lonely, just you and your sweet babe. You are most definitely not alone. There is a fabulous breastfeeding community online, in chat rooms, on Facebook, and on Twitter. Search for the #bfcafe hashtag to find a weekly Twitter chat, and look for your local Le Leche League’s Facebook group. Many local baby stores also host breastfeeding cafes run by IBCLCs where you can find community and get advice. If you are struggling and need help, don’t hesitate to ask. You are not a failure because you need help. Ask your friends for recommendations on lactation consultants and make sure they are internationally board certified (IBCLC), or call your Le Leche League chapter. You will be surprised by how many of your friends sought help with their nursling. A breastfeeding hotline run by a formula company is not the best resource for quality information on nursing. If you need help, check out the resources below.
Breastfeeding Resources:
Best For Babes
Kelly Mom
Info About Tongue Ties
Le Leche League
The Leaky Boob
4) Your breastfeeding relationship may look different from your mom’s or your friend’s.
Many women of our parents’ generation did not breastfeed, many because they believed the advertising campaigns that said science (formula) was better than nature or because they had to return to work quickly after the birth. My mom told me that she was kind of unique with her natural Lamaze births and breastfeeding. Your mom or mother in law may think it is weird for you to want to nurse, and other people in your life may not be supportive. Lots of folks will have advice. Your best friend may be completely happy nursing on demand 24/7 til age 4, while your other friend is doing all she can to get to 6 weeks. Both are doing what works for them and their baby. Some babies eat for 5-10 minutes every hour, while others (like mine) eat for 20-30 minutes every 2-4 hours. What I do know is this: while a structured routine may work for you, a rigid schedule will make you crazy. Babies get hungry when they get hungry, just like we do. If they are used to eating around the same time every day, they may put themselves into a routine. However, a rigid schedule run by the clock will leave you stressed and baby hungry and mad. I love a routine. But not a schedule. Our basic routine is eat, activity, sleep. I feed her, burp her, then we do some activity, then she will start to act fussy and it is time for nap. When she wakes up (at whatever time) I know she is hungry again. Every day looks a little different. This is what works for us, but what works for you may look completely different. And that’s ok. Trust your mama heart and your mama instincts.
5) Breastfeeding is not a modesty issue, it is a baby feeding issue.
When my first child was born, I just knew I would always wear a cover when nursing in public and would never be one of THOSE women. Then my first child hated to be covered. He wanted to see my face the whole time and would immediately throw off the blanket as soon as his little arms had the strength. Also, I live in Texas and have to nurse in the summer. If you believe women should have to cover up, I have an exercise for you to try. Grab your lunch and then try to eat it under a blanket. You will get really uncomfortable, really fast, even in air conditioning. My baby feels the same way. I’m not flashing my boobs all over town, but I will feed my baby whenever and wherever she is hungry, and most likely won’t use a cover. Most people probably won’t even notice. If a women feeding her baby offends you, you definitely want to stay away from the mall because those store ads show WAY more boobage than any nursing mama. The message that it is somehow wrong to use our bodies they way God designed them just makes my blood boil.
Nursing in public is part of the message of World Breastfeeding Week. When moms feel shamed and discriminated against, it can sabotage a nursing relationship. Unfortunately this still happens on a regular basis. Here in Texas the rights of nursing moms are protected, but that doesn’t stop the harassment. Check out the news story below to learn about the recent Big Latch On event and the discrimination faced by one Texas mom.
Dallas News | myFOXdfw.com
If you are a nursing mom, what is your favorite thing about your breastfeeding relationship? What is the hardest thing about nursing?
I would love to challenge everyone who reads this to encourage any nursing mamas they know with kind words and support. If you see a mama nursing in public, thank her for what she is doing. She will appreciate it.
The State Fair of Texas Summer Adventure at Fair Park Rocks!
I’m not sure how I missed this at the beginning of the summer, but I’m so glad we went. If they offer season passes next year, we are so in. The Bear had a blast. He rode his first ever fair ride, and loved it.
See what I mean? No one else was there. It was AWESOME. The thing I don’t like about the actual State Fair is the crowds. We rode the carousel over and over, and were the only ones on it. I felt bad for the staff, but I’m sure it will get better next year.
The Bear was able to ride quite a few of the attractions, but most of the kiddie rides have a 36 inch height requirement and our little shorty is 35.5 inches tall. Next year he will be the perfect age for all the kiddie rides. There are plenty of options for big kids and adults as well.
Not only do they have all the usual fair rides, they also have splash pads set up and a stationary surf wave you can ride if you want to get wet. They have shows going on all day as well, all included in the admission price. Jed and Bear loved the BMX bike show.
Because of the notorious Texas heat, there are lots of indoor, air-conditioned options. The building below is filled with gorgeous plants and a train exhibit that kept the Bear enthralled for over half an hour. That’s years in toddler time. It rivaled the Trains at Northpark and was seriously like a magical fairy land. I nursed the Pearl Girl while Bear chased the trains around. There is also a building dedicated to Lego building with tables for the kids and lots of seating for adults. We spent some time cooling off in there as well.