The last two months have flown by, a weird phenomenon that occurs when your days are measured in 2-3 hour intervals. Our Eleanor Pearl is already 2 months old. I can’t believe it. She is sweet and beautiful and pretty perfect in our opinion.
Category: family
Life to the Full: Defining
Who am I? Who do I want to be? For what will I be known or remembered? These are the questions of life and as I come upon my one year anniversary of leaving a career I loved to stay home with my children, I find myself wrestling with them yet again. My own little mid-30s existential crisis is taking place. I look at who I think I am and how I would describe myself and realize that most people would not see that person if they looked at me right now. If you read my blog today, do you know what I’m about? I don’t know. I want to change that. I want to be the person I want to be RIGHT NOW. Not in ten years. Not next week. Now.
I want to live intentionally and work towards being the person I’ve always longed to be. First I have to figure out who she is. I have to define myself. Not who I used to be, but myself right now. Motherhood is wonderful. It is all I had hoped for and so much more, but it has a dangerous way of eclipsing all that a woman was before and causing that to disappear in a wave of spit up and dirty diapers. I am a mother, yes. What what else? Who else? Right now my wee ones are dependent on me for everything and so that role can easily swallow up all my others. Soon they will be independent creatures and I will be left not knowing what to do, who to be, who I am. I want to continue to be me, the person God has made me to be, while mothering and loving my children with my whole self. Is it possible? We’ll see. First I must define who I am and what I want to do with this one life I’ve been given.
Frugal and Fast {Last Minute} Father’s Day Craft and Card Round Up
As the Queen of Procrastinators, I found myself searching Pinterest for Father’s Day craft ideas this week in a desperate quest to find that perfect project. I found a few great ones to share with you if you are in the same boat. It’s not too late! All of the projects below can be done at the last minute for very little money, but will still make that special Daddy feel loved. I’m still wavering but I think I’m going with the chalkboard cookie jar and some Instagram magnets. If the magnets work out well {fingers crossed} I’ll post a tutorial soon. If you choose to pin this post (and I hope you do) please use the image above, and pin the projects from their original sources. Both the photos and text below are linked to the original bloggers with permission.
Eleanor Pearl at One Month
Truth and Coffee
Growing up, we all made fun of my mom constantly for her habit of leaving half drunk cups of coffee all over the house. I never understood how she could keep forgetting her cup and never quite get through it without having to reheat it. Let’s just say the veil has lifted.
I am now the mother of 2 children under age 2 and can barely find time to feed myself, much less finish a cup of coffee before it gets cold. I’ve found my forgotten half drunk cups all over the place from the microwave to the changing table and everywhere in between. The other day I found myself complaining about never getting a chance to just sit down and enjoy my coffee and breakfast. I felt an ache in my heart for my old job in full time ministry with Young Life. I loved that job and pray that He calls me back to it when this season is over. In that moment I felt the Lord’s gentle reminder that THIS is the season I am in right now and it won’t last long. This season of 2 in diapers and nonstop breastfeeding and 3 hour intervals and never being alone and never having a completely clean house for more than 10 minutes – THIS is where He has me right now. In a brief moment my baby will be a toddler and my toddler will be a big kid. Before I know it their complete dependence on me will be gone forever and I will have all the time in the world.
I am so thankful for the reminder to be where He has placed me right now. So today I am choosing gratitude. I am thankful for 2 healthy children who need me constantly. I am thankful for an easy childbirth and quick recovery. I am thankful for a teacher husband who has only a few days left of school before summer vacation. I am thankful for nap time. I am thankful for this high calling to be a stay at home mama. I am thankful for a God who loves me even when I choose to be a brat instead of a grateful child of His.
Welcome to the World, Eleanor Pearl!
Ellie and I are getting into the groove of nursing, but she had a severe tongue tie that made it difficult at first. We’ve had to have it clipped twice, because the first time didn’t go far enough. Hopefully this will enable us to have a long and healthy breastfeeding relationship and will prevent any speech difficulties as she gets older.
Our Wedding: Five Years Ago Today
Happy Birthday to the Love of My Life!
Frugal Friday: Our Top 3 Cheap Babysitting Solutions
As parents on a tight budget, we are always looking for a cheap babysitting solutions so we can have date nights, go to social events, and spend time with friends. We don’t have any family near us, so that’s not an option. In Dallas the going rate for babysitting one child is around $10-15 per hour. PER HOUR, people. That means if we want to go out to dinner and a movie we are shelling out an additional $40 to the babysitter, minimum. There is no room in our budget for that kind of expense, unfortunately. Our whole dining out and entertainment budget for an entire month is $95. Yep, that’s it. We are on one income and prioritize saving for retirement and other things above dining out and entertainment. So, we’ve had to get creative when it comes to babysitting solutions. We’ve found a few things that work well, and one we really want to try.
Cheap Babysitting Solutions:
1) Parents’ Night Out – Several churches and local kid businesses (YMCA, etc) host Parents’ Night Out evenings a few times a year. We sign up for every one we come across. In our area these are typically a 4-5 hour window where you drop your child off and pay a fee to help the church youth group raise money. Most churches are well equipped to care for children because they do it on a regular basis, and we feel good about helping out a local church. Usually you don’t have to be a member, and most in our area charge $10 for the first child for the whole time slot, and $5 for each additional child. This is a steal! To find a Parents’ Night Out in your area, just do a google search or call local churches or kid friendly organizations.
2) The Swap – Trade babysitting nights with another family. We’ve done this a few times and hope to schedule more in the future. Most kids Bear’s age go to bed around 7 pm like he does, so we put him to bed and then have 1 parent from another family come over and watch tv, read in peace, etc on our couch while we go out for a few hours. Then one of us goes over to that family’s house on another night to relax and watch the baby monitor while they go out. Everybody wins. This doesn’t work as well for single parents unless you can take your child to the other house and put them to bed there, then transport them home when the parents return.
3) The Co-op – My parents were part of a babysitting co-op in our neighborhood growing up, and my mom has encouraged me to start one here with our friends. A babysitting co-op is a group of families who organize themselves to trade off babysitting using a point or voucher system. You earn points by babysitting for others, and then cash them in when you need a sitter. I haven’t gotten around to starting or joining one, but hope to soon.
What’s your best cheap babysitting solution?
Pregnancy 2.0 Update: 34 Weeks
It might be time to bust out the old Birkenstocks from college, much to Jed’s horror.